Although I have set a New Years Resolutions before, I am not big on the idea. I don’t like that it encourages people to set a huge goals. We often set too many goals for ourselves, or goals that are too lofty, and and end up feeling overwhelmed after a few months. Why do you think so many people do things like hit the gym hard for the first three months of the year and then stop going?
I am looking at New Years “resolutions” differently this year. This year, what passing the threshold into 2015 means to me is that I forgive myself. I let go of beating myself up for not doing all of the things I said I was going to do last year. I am starting 2015 with fresh eyes and a fresh conscience.
My New Years Resolution this year is simple – to be kinder to myself. What that means to me is that I will appreciate what progress I can make instead of feeling guilty for what I am NOT doing. I will feel good about all of the great things I do for Chester and Gretel and, while I will be looking to improve the quality of their life and our relationship, I won’t compare myself to “the Jonses” and feel bad that I am not doing good enough.
It also means that I am going to set obtainable goals for myself – small goals that may seem silly but that are so easy it will almost be harder to fail. I am an over-achiever, or rather over-dreamer, so it’s actually really hard for me to stick with one goal and make it SMALL.
Even though it is January 1st and I am setting a goal this month, I am not making a “New Years Resolution”. I plan to make one – just one – easy goal a month and commit to sticking with it for at least that month. I might even feel so good for accomplishing that small goal that I go beyond and do a little more (Winning!)
So my January goal is to teach Gretel to fetch. She’s most of the way there on her own but she is definitely a getter rather than a bringer-backer. Her favorite toy is the (affiliate link) Kong Extra Small Teddy Bear.
She is obsessed with it. She loves it when we throw it for her. She’ll chase it and bring it back….almost. She always drops it about 3 feet from us and then dances around for us to throw it. I would like this game more if she actually brought it back to me so I don’t become the fetcher. Ha, ha.
I spoke to a friend that said he taught his pup to bring something back to him in a couple of weeks. His pup, like Gretel, would pick up the toy but not bring it back. He said he would walk over to his pup while they toy was in his mouth, take the toy, and treat and praise him profusely. Eventually the pup understood that good things happened when he brought the toy to his Dad. Dad was able to slowly start increasing the distance between him and his pup. Eventually the pup brought him the toy wherever he was sitting.
This would be magical! So this month I am going to work on that with Gretel. Well see how it goes but I am going to do a happy dance even if I can get her to bring it one extra foot closer to me. You have to start somewhere right?
What is one small goal you can commit to this month?